Monday, July 11, 2016

Dear Nigerians, let parents raise their kids and keep your opinions to yourselves

It seems everywhere I go, somebody wants to contradict my parenting. When passers-by see my two-and-a-half-year-old daughter, Ally, trip and fall they go to help her up while I'm trying to teach her to pull herself up on her own. Her friends' parents just assume I'm okay with her eating indomie. The HeteroAjayi Enforcers keep asking her if she has a boyfriend. And worst of all, they ruin our special time: robbing people inside the ABC night bus together.

"Isn't it late for such a little girl to be out?" they ask.

Wow. Just wow. They think I don't monitor my daughter's sleep just because she is out at night? Ally and I are out at 2 AM because daytime robberies can go bad really quick (do you have any idea just how many checkpoints there are now?). So you see, I'm doing what's best for her here.

"Is it safe for a little girl to hold such a big gun?"

Yes, guns can be dangerous, but I am not going to shield my daughter from all the dangers of this world. Rather than pretend life is just rainbows and ice cream, I have given her a shotgun. You think I don't care about her safety? I made it smaller for her by sawing off the barrel. And it's pretty rich that you think I'm unsafe when you're the one with a shotgun pointed at your knees.

"Please, here is my phone and my wallet! Just go! I have a family!"

Abeg o...Is that supposed to imply that I don't have a family? That just because I choose to incorporate my daughter into my life rather than leave her at home with a sitter (that will eat all the food in the house), somehow your family is better than mine? Armed robbery is the only way Ally and I feel truly alive and we will ride this horse straight to wherever this takes us. But some people see us having a good time together and they just don't understand. Would you believe someone actually called the police? The police! (as if they would ever get to the scene in time). Just because my daughter was unsupervised for a few seconds while I was threatening the driver. Go Helicopter your children. Ally and I are doing just fine.

Also, yes, a toddler in a ski mask holding a sawed-off shotgun is adorable, but don't record my daughter without my permission (all these people and their smartphones sef...). It is an invasion of her privacy and denial of her agency (yeah we still have laws in Nigeria). She is not an object of your amusement; she is a trained outlaw who will never be taken alive.

Yes, yes: I know people mean well, We all want children to grow up happy and healthy, but give the benefit of the doubt to us parents that we just might know what's best for our own kids. Please respect my decision and let me raise my own child.

Now, hurry up and pick up your dignity from the floor because the water in her toy gun is beginning to leak out.

First of all, in case you didn't figure it out...this is a joke. Second, we really need to learn to mind our business in this country. Let people raise their kids. Don't help them. Face your own and if you don't have then what makes you think you know any better? Keep your opinions to yourself.

So you weaned your baby when he was seven months old and you judge your colleague because her one-year old is still sucking? Because your child is great at maths, every other kid becomes dumb and needs extra tutorials? If God blessed you and you can afford to send a driver to pick your own kid doesn't make other parents who cant afford to, callous... We really need to stop please....Good morning

Wednesday, April 8, 2015

3 Reasons Why Plateau State Must Produce An Apc Governor

Original Article written by Despan Kwardem

Now that General Muhammadu Buhari is our President-elect, Plateau people must vote and install an APC governor as a matter of political expediency. Had President Goodluck Jonathan won the presidential election, voting the APC would have been a matter of choice. 

The peoples protest against Gov Jang’s imposition to actualize his Du Agenda may have informed this choice to vote for the APC, a choice the PDP machinery at the centre would have cast all manner of spell to frustrate. With GMB’s emergence, this choice has been eliminated. Voting for the APC in protest is no longer sufficient reasons to vote PDP out of power; it is now a matter of survival and relevance. I adduce three reasons for this:

1. Access to Federal Opportunities (Appointments). 

There are two kinds of federal opportunities (appointments) which States benefit from. The first type is the appointments guaranteed by the constitution and the principle of federal character. There are basically three of them – Minister, Ambassador, Federal Permanent Secretary. The second types are those that are given at the prerogative of Mr. President. Although the principle of federal character still applies, it is not strictly followed. An APC governor in Plateau State would guarantee the latter.

Already, Plateau State has the ignoble label of being an eternal PDP State. Voting in a PDP governor would only reinforce this stereotyping and reduce the State's chances of getting federal appointments that fall within the prerogative of the President.

General Buhari is an honourable gentleman, a statesman and man of equity. So we expect he will distribute these appointments equitably. That is the duty of a leader. However, my fear stems from the experience of the State during the Goodluck Jonathan Presidency. Out of nearly 350 federal appointments into Boards of federal Agencies and Parastatals, Goodluck Jonathan could only credit Plateau State with two positions, none of them a Chairman. 

Recall that the Chairman of the '16 versus 19' PDP Governors' Forum was from Plateau State. He was not only a party henchman; he was a complete loyalist of Jonathan's. Apart from Sarah Ochekpe (a berom compatriot of Baba Jang) the only federal minister and Esther Gonda (another berom compatriot) a federal Permanent Secretary who was replaced by one Danjuma from Langtang, Mr. Jonathan couldn't use his prerogative to give Plateau State any federal appointments. Except of course, Paradang in the Nigerian Immigration Service.

On the contrary, the northwest had 8 federal ministers, 8 federal permanent Secretaries, Speaker of the House of Representatives, the last 3 successive Inspectors General of Police, the last 4 Chief Justices of Nigeria, except the one before the present CJN, Comptroller General of Customs, Acting DG of FIRS, etc, yet, the North west never voted him. I don't remember any federal infrastructure in Plateau State (It still beats me that Plateau State voted for him in the last election).

Now we don't want a repeat of this marginalisation under GMB – which is very likely if a Jang anointed should succeed him as governor. 

However, an APC governor would definitely stand a better chance to negotiate for these positions on our behalf. Already, the APC on the Plateau has a good bargaining chip...the massive votes we gave the General in the presidential election. We would need to consolidate on that advantage by voting massively again for the APC in the governorship election. This would keep the channel of communication between State and Federal open. 

2. To ensure that Plateau State remains relevant in the national calculation.

A man without relevance in any community cannot influence anything. He is like a man with no value. Voting for the PDP governorship puts Plateau state in this state of risk. But we can eliminate this risk. Plateau State has always been relevant in national issues. We must remain so by carving the right alignments. And in the national political calculation, being in the mainstream APC seems a good prospect. 

As it is, our only other channels at the federal level – senators and members of the house of Representatives – are predominantly in the PDP (again reinforcing the stereotype). With 64 APC senators elected, the PDP is suddenly now the opposition party and our 3 J-senators automatically members of the minority party. What this means is that they cannot be made principal officers. At best, the party may reward the State by giving one of them the position of minority leader or chief whip... if they are able to negotiate well. This effectively diminishes our bargaining power and by a larger implication, relevance in the national calculation.

Now this is certainly not a good political outlook for Plateau state, which has traditionally been in the mainstream of political affairs in this country since the return of democratic governance in 1999. As a matter of expediency therefore, we must remain in the mainstream. Holding unto the PDP just to fulfill and maintain a tradition will not help us much. 

Without an Executive linkage to the APC at the national level, Plateau State could easily be alienated in the national equation. Our only hope, like I said earlier, is that GMB is a fair man. He would use his prerogative to not only appoint our people into federal positions, but also reach out to keep Plateau State relevant. But we can’t just rely on GMB's generosity alone. Let’s earn it!

3. To provide Change on the Plateau.

The last reason why Plateau must vote APC is to provide change in Plateau state and end what I call 3I-Culture, i.e. the triple-I evils of imposition, impunity and ignobility. These three evils were the hallmarks of the Jonathan administration – the same evils that stirred the souls of Nigerians to demand for change. Everyone knows that no society can be built on the principles of injustice and inequality. As such, Plateau State cannot be an exception. In fact, by its very religious nature and disposition, Plateau State ought to lead the way in this fight for change.
Moreover, the gale (wind) of change is sweeping across the nation; so why not also the Plateau?

This might look like a pedestrian argument perhaps it is but it has its merits. Baba Jang has done his bit. PDP has had her share of governance since 1999. Perhaps it is time to try another party, even if for the fun of it. It is like we have been eating rice all our lives. Should we not want to try beans or semo this time around? Voting in the APC, even if for the sake of trying them, gives us an opportunity to know the difference. We must not be afraid to do this. Waiting till the next election may be late. 

Too late.

Moreover, the just concluded presidential election has proven that the power to change governments is in our hands! Unless we try this change now, we can never be sure if the APC is a better party or not. But if we vote them into power and they disappoint, then in 2019, we can easily tell them, ‘we gave you a chance and you failed” and vote them out like we did the PDP at the federal level. But something tells me the APC may be a better choice. 

They have a glowing example in Lagos and Osun, where their youth empowerment programme is one of the best models by any government in the country. So may be, if Plateau state votes the APC into governorship, we will not only be in the mainstream of national dance of change, but specifically test the party’s capability on the Plateau.

On the strength of these three points therefore, it has become strategically imperative, in my opinion, that Plateau State votes Right. Hon. Simon Lalong, candidate of the APC as the next governor of the state.

Sunday, July 6, 2014

3 Not so romantic moves in Nigeria

I recently saw a movie where the protagonist was given one week to prove his undying love for the love of his life. Some of the things he tried were drop dead romantic and some where...well...not that much. I started thinking what would it be like if a guy in Nigeria was faced with this challenge?

Sorry sha, I'm not about to give you seven romantic ideas to prove undying love but I can give you 3 romantic ideas that have the opposite effect.

This is no form of generalisation. I know not everyone is the same so this isn't valid for every woman you might meet but at least you would know enough not to try them anyhow.

1. FLOWERS: I still don't even get this one but there is that smile that comes to the face of a woman when a guy shows up at her door with a bouquet of flowers or even a single rose...at least in the movies anyway. Now I'm not really sure why but it doesn't seem to elicit the same reaction over here. Maybe it's the wrong type of red rose. Maybe we don't have the right glands to find it appealing or maybe you simply would be considered thrifty...The point is over here flowers are just what they are: flowers. They belong in a garden and that's where she wants to see them; not in your hands.

2. ROSE PETALS, RED SHEETS, SCENTED CANDLES: This one should have been romantic but thanks to nollywood you can kiss it goodbye. Imagine getting to a girl's house and finding an open door with rose petals on the floor leading to a semi dark area just around the corner. Once in the first thing you notice is her lying down on a bed with red sheets surrounded by scented candles...well?
I asked a few people and one word kept coming up and I think you have the word in your head by now: RITUALS. Some guys might argue that they won't be bothered and maybe they won't but I just think if you don't want her running back and screaming "he wants to use me for blood money", I suggest you on your gen.

3. THE NIGHT DRIVE:
So those Americans down south grab a truck full of Beer, drive to the country side and park in a nice remote spot with a good view of either the moon or the town...sometimes both and they have a good time. Oya wake up. Try that rubbish here and you will be lucky not to fall into police hands. If that wasn't deterrent enough, which kind mumu country side wey get remote spot no go be armed robber hideout?  There might be a few exceptions but the general rule...especially with the current security challenges we face is not to be in funny places in the day talk more of in the night. Besides if the girl has any sense at all...she no go gree follow you.

Which others come to your mind?

Wednesday, July 2, 2014

10 Nigerian stress killers

Hey people, ever had a day where it just seemed like ever thing was just too much? A day when you wish you could just disappear for a while. Then you realise you can't and it makes you bitter and irritable. Then when bimbo says you are annoying you begin to wonder if she knows you or has just been handing around Musa for too long.

The truth is at some point we all get stressed out. More so in our beloved naija.  The holdup.  The annoying oga or that annoying landlord. House rent matters plus school fees and a 5 month old kid who's hobby is either 'how much can I poop' or 'how loud can I cry'. Don't even get me started on nepa and very annoying neighbours. Or that mechanic that messed with your car and now it's making that funny sound....See? You know what I'm saying. This is our life and how can we not be stressed?

So I made a list of 10 tips that have helped me and decided to share. So grab a chair and read.

1. READ: Face it. As long as you're reading this article you unconsciously put down most of your cares for a while. I start with this because it's easily accessible and really the cheapest tip I have used. After a hard day, just as you hit the bed your mind plays your day all over and most times you start thinking of things and then you don't sleep well. Get something to read. Anything that isn't serious. I usually log on to nairaland and browse through the jokes and romance section and usually find a lot to laugh about. Some people read about sports. Others read novels. The point is reading helps relax your brain. (As long as it isn't school or work related anyway). If that doesn't work, don't worry. I've got 9 more up my sleeve.

2. WALK: Say you get home and nepa has done it again. You know how your shoulders just go down and you suddenly feel even more tired than you already felt. Take a shower and wear something loose and casual. Step outside and take a small stroll. This is especially good for couples. Get your wife outside the house and this time not to go to the market or pick the kids. You don't even have to walk far. Mallams shop is a good enough distance. Look around if you're alone and you could even listen to music. You might find out that some things about your neighbourhood you normally wouldn't notice. Enjoy the view. Suya smoke. Fish sellers setting up. Barbers and salons with their smoking gens and those annoying bikes that think the road is theirs. Once immersed in this chaos you'll be lost in it and your mind leaves the days worries behind. At least for a while. Greet malam for me o.

3. TALK: Look one thing you will always find readily available is talkers. They are in your office, in your school, in your area and even in your church. I live in abuja. Kubwa to be precise and once in a while I just go outside to talk aimlessly. It's not a habit. Just a way to relive stress. You'll always find talking points. From telemundo to premier league.  From kids to apc vs pdp. A plus with this is that you get to meet new people. Try to stay away from loud music tho.  That doesn't help in anyway...except you're an avid clubber in which case you wouldn't need to be reading this.

4. PLAY: This might not work for a lot of people but it is a big stress killer. You can even do it once a week and still get stellar results. Find a sport, ride a bike, go swimming...ok fine...go and watch people play a sport or do something you're to lazy to do. Stress makes us feel old. Play does the opposite. Strike a balance today and see how fulfilling it could be. This is one of my favorites.

5. SLEEP: All I've written is fine and dandy but look, nothing beats Saturday sleep. Forget about everything. The house won't fall down before 12pm.  Sleep very well at least one Saturday in a month. Don't worry about that wedding...you can arrive at the reception late. This one doesn't need much explanation....don't wake up early on Saturday.

6. THE CHICKEN REPUBLIC/MR. BIGGS FACTOR: Some people might frown at this but me I no send. Grab your phone one evening or during the weekend and walk into an eatery. Buy one meatpie and a drink and sit down with either a book or your phone. You are guaranteed at least 1 hour of peace and air conditioning while you idly chat or read or browse or do whatever it is you want to do. Increase the fun buy adding a friend. Remember this is to link stress...so guys don't invite that babe you are toasting unless it's a date. I do this a lot. It's cheaper than you think and just as much fun and you can imagine...In abuja the air conditioning is a big boost which makes this my second favourite.

7. WRITE: Some sharp people would figure from this particular point that this article serves as a stress reducing agent for me and the would be right. Most people would tell you they can't write and I am not Oprah that will tell you you can. If you can't write then you can't write. Which makes this even better because now there is no pressure. Grab a notepad or a diary or your phone. Write down your thoughts....as they come in any order they come. Trust me you'll be surprised at what you manage to produce and some of you may find out that maybe Oprah was right after all.

8. Movie/Karaoke Night: Yeah...you know na. This one is simple. I prefer me and my headphones in the toilet singing like I'm in maybe idols West Africa. ..what ever works for you sha....It kills stress like a boring person kills basket mouths show.

9. BUILD/FIX SOMETHING: For my dad it's usually his car. As far as he is concerned there is always something wrong with it. It allows you discover talents. Doesn't have to be a big thing. Eniola does free make up for her neighbours and mike try to sew some crazy designs I will never buy. I like to fix my annoying generator. Between that diy I printed online and what I've been watching that mechanic do I usually get a good grip. Point is do something with your hands that isn't a chore or your daily work. Here are a few tips: rearrange your furniture. Fix that bad tap. Clean the back of your television (you know there is dust there)...doesn't have to be a big thing but it helps if it takes at least and hour and makes you sweat. Combine that with good music or good jist and stress just died. Charlie Boy must attend this funeral too....

10. ROMMA ROMMA: Yes we all need some of that. Gaan figure it out on your own.

Monday, January 20, 2014

[CUSTOM ROM] Phantom A2: Flash them all

So after much thought, I decided to make this file to save both parties much stress. This file simply allows you to port any A+ rom I have made to your phone. Its simple but let me put number so that It'll look official.

1. Download the porter HERE
2. Download any of the A+ roms you want from my blog (please note that whatever bugs it has on the A+ will also be on the A2 so check the comments and reviews especially on nairaland)
3. Make a backup of your rom with CWM (please this is a very important step)
4. Flash the A+ rom to your device (remember to wipe data/factory reset before flashing)
5. Flash the porter
6. Reboot
7* This isn't expected to happen but if your device is stuck at the boot logo (aka doesn't boot) just remove your battery and put it back. then boot into CWM again and go to backup and restore. Now select advanced restore and choose the most recent backup (which should be the one you made at step 3. Shey I told you it was important abi?) and select restore boot. Once that is done, reboot again. It should boot just fine now.

Kit Kat is still far off o. The apps work but the framework has refused to boot so please be patient. Thanks for your time. Happy Porting

Wednesday, December 11, 2013

Unbricking Phantom A

Unbricking Tecno A

Ok so you rooted and installed apps and somehow and someway you managed to brick your device...lets fix it.

FILES
First of all, here are the files you will need:

1. Stock rom for phantom A: Here and get the flash files here

2. Specific flashtool that works on A: Here

3. Drivers for the A: Here (I would advice that you uninstall any previous drivers for any tecno you have installed as they might cause a conflict. here is a way to test if your drivers are working properly. with the phone off, open your computers device manager and plug the phone. you should see "mediatek preloader..." come up for about 5 seconds and disappear. if it shows with a yellow arrow on it then the drivers are not installed correctly. if it doesnt have the yellow arrow then you are good to go.)

DISCLAIMER: Follow THESE instructions and Download THESE files for TECNO PHANTOM A only. I will not be held for any mishap caused by instructions followed from somewhere else.


HOW TO FLASH:
1. now open the folder where u downloaded d files to (everything must be in d same folder o) and cut the scatter file out and paste it in anoda place (anywhere. just make sure its not in d same folder as the other files).
open sp flash tools and use d file tab to load DAT scatter file.

2. now it should show you a list of things to flash. untick everything except recovery, boot and system (that means only these 3 should be ticked o). now double click on d word recovery and select d recovery you downloaded there. please make sure everything is in d same folder o.
do the same for the boot and system image u downloaded.

3. remove the bat3 from the bricked or unhappy A. click download in sp flash tools and plug d bricked f7. flashing will begin and when it ends you should see a green circle. if it doesnt start den remove and plug again. if you try three times and it doesnt flash den u didnt install the drivers correctly.

4.if you see the green circle then congrats you have successfully flashed your phone. now please first things first, after you finish patting yourself on the back about what a wonderful guru you are. put off the phone and wait for it to vibrate. the hold the volume up button and press and hold the power button until it shows you three options. use the volume button to navigate to recovery mode and use the volume down button to select it. cwm should boot. now please backup your phone.

thank you guys...its been a pleasure.

If You have any questions, place a comment here.


Monday, December 2, 2013

Let's pretend

Let's pretend we cared and it all made sense
Let's believe we did our best and it all paid off
Because if we don't then we accept the blame
And are responsible for the broken glass

Let's pretend we actually voted
Pretend we got who we wanted
Because if we can't then the wolves come out
And we are left with sheep's clothing

Let's pretend it was our choice
Say we agreed to the policies
So we can say we have failed
And karma has paid

Let's pretend they had good lives
Nod our heads and say it was destiny
That way the bombs would be from God
And the blame not on us

Let's pretend we are all educated
And that our leaders are wise
And then we could Rest assured
We are represented outside as we should be

Let's pretend public officials were true
Let's assume they are misunderstood
That way we can join hands and search
For that elusive saboteur crippling us

Let's pretend this wasn't Nigeria
Let's call it an experiment
Little learned and little gained
Let's call it a day.